Book Review: The Excellent Wife

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So I keep saying about whatever book I just finished that it’s the best book I have read in a long time. Well, I’m going to say it again!!! This is my top #1 most recommended favorite most compelling and convicting and encouraging book regarding the role of a woman in her marriage relationship. I got stuck on 1 chapter for 10 days because I kept re-reading it and praying about how to apply all the wisdom Martha Peace had to share. The basis of the book is from Proverbs 31:10 and what does it look like to be a wife who fears the Lord. Martha opens the book by sharing her journey to becoming a Proverbs 31 woman and that journey began with her as a non-believer ready to walk out on her husband and children and give up on everything… can you imagine yourself there? After reading her book it is a huge testament to the power of God to change ANYONE and mold them into the true person He originally created them to be. What I love about this book is that it is INFUSED WITH SCRIPTURE. There is on average 3-5 scripture references in EACH PARAGRAPH!! All of the wisdom in this book is straight from God and His Word… not Martha Peace. She just happens to be the woman through whom God is relaying His timeless wisdom. I also love that she is point blank, black and white, very direct… Your role as an excellent wife is to obey the Lord. Period. If you do not obey what He is asking you to do you are in sin and you need to make a choice to change. Period. But of course she says it with grace and love and you can sense from her that her desire is not to make you feel bad but to show you the importance and the blessing of a life lived in obedience to God. And another thing I love his her organized mentality (of course this is a bonus to me!). She uses multiple charts and diagrams and bullet/number points which helps me in my organized mind to apply what she is saying to my daily life.

 Here are some of the passages from the book:

 “God is perfect and we can completely trust that He knows what is best for us even though husbands are not perfect… In spite of the husband’s imperfections, God has chosen to place the wife under the authority of her husband… Therefore, when you are under your husband’s authority, you are really putting yourself in the safest possible place – in God’s will.” p.14-15

 “Old habits of sinful thoughts and responses do not just disappear. They have to be replaced with new, godly ways of thinking and responding. Christians have to be ‘…transformed by the renewing of their minds’ (Romans 12:2)… Eventually the godly response becomes the automatic response.” p.23

 “In order for [your marriage] to be perfected in unity, you must stop asking yourself questions like ‘What will it do for me?’ or ‘What will I get out of it?’ or ‘How will it meet my desires (needs)?’ Instead, ask yourself ‘How can we glorify God?'” p.30

 “Giving of yourself to your husband is not going above and beyond the call of duty. It is only doing as you ought.” p.32

 “The goal of the Christian husband and wife in their marriage is to have a oneness that is characterized by a loving spiritual and physical bond that glorifies God and thereby enhances personal spiritual growth… achieved as each partner helps the other become as much like the Lord Jesus Christ as possible… does not happen by chance [but] in direct proportion ot how diligent a couple is in pursuing it.” p.33-34

 There is a really good section on the wife staying at home and fulfilling some responsibilities in that domain. I feel like it would be difficult for me to just pull out a few passages as that topic can be a controversial one and would likely need an entire blog post dedicated to just that… so if you’re interested in it… then read this book! : )

 “God will give you… grace to show love to your husband, if you obey God by thinking loving thoughts and doing loving actions. Remember, at times, you will have to go directly against your feelings. Godly love is not primarily a feeling, it is a choice.” p.84

 I also really wish I could insert the whole chapter on love here and I’m finding it difficult to just pull out a couple of passages because it is so deep and thought provoking… so again my solution is… read this book! : ) But in the meantime you can meditate on these passages (1 Corinthians 13: 4-8; Titus 2:3-4; Romans 12:2; Ephesians 4:23; Philippians 2:3-4; Romans 12:10; 2 Corinthians 10:5 and the section on bitterness in the chapter on love – Hebrews 12:15-17; Philippians 2:14; Matthew 7:5; Hebrews 4:15-16; Matthew 7:12; Ephesians 4:31-32; Matthew 18:35) That should keep you busy for awhile : )

 “The wife sees trials and pressures as coming into her life for a special opportunity to become more like the Lord Jesus. She does not usually enjoy those difficult times, but she does endure them with God’s help.” p.104

 “In our soap-opera, TV sitcom world, it’s difficult to be satisfied with an everyday, ordinary husband. But if you will sset your mind on the things of the Spirit (the things that God desires0, you will be grateful for what you have instead of what you do not have.” p.110

 “If a wife’s primary concern is what her husband should do, she will likely miss what God wants her to understand and do… Scripture never says that the wife’s obedience to God depends on her husband’s conduct.” p.130-131

 “God has purpose in your every circumstance (including your husband’s decisions).” p.179

 “It is an honor to God and His Word when you do what God has instructed you to do. It shows a reverence for His Word and humility before God that what He wants you to do is more important to you than what you want… Any time you submit to your husband and it is not what you would have preferred, you are sacrificing self for obedience to God.” p.183

 “… pride would produce strife when we hold onto our right to have life proceed the way we would like. Instead, we should gratefully submit to God’s sovereign control over every detail of our lives.” p.211

 “… think about your particular circumstances. Realize God could remove you from them today. If He does not, He must have some purpose in them for you… Perhaps God wants to remind you how much you need Him… God wants you to have a special opportunity to glorify Him… God has a purpose that is too deep for us to comprehend… You are here to serve God, not God here to serve you.” p.233-234

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