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Book Review: To Train Up a Child

Book Review: To Train Up a Child

by, Michael & Debi Pearl

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This is a challenging book to review. I love the verse about training up a child in the way he should go so I naturally picked up this book based on my enjoyment of that verse and come to find out this book is very controversial and I definitely see why.

The Pearls write from a very truth without grace based style of writing. Very black and white and in some ways a little harsh and unforgiving. If you can put this reality aside and continue reading to find the nuggets of truth from God’s Word then you will read this book just find but for some it may be challenging to continue reading if you feel offended by the way they address some issues.

In my years of reading books God has used the Spirit to lead me when to just say no and set down a book (this was hard as once I started a book I always wanted to finish) but there is wisdom in saying this will do me mentally more harm than good and there are a million other books on my list so I should just move on. This may be one of those books for you. For me, I was able to move past their delivery and glean some nuggets from God’s truth and I did not feel the Spirit leading me to put this book down and have not had mental battles from the things I read like I have experienced in the past with other books.

So, take that for what it’s worth and here are some of the nuggets I gleaned from the book:

“If you raise your voice when giving a command to your child, he will learn to associate your tone and sound level with your intention. If you have trained him to respond to a bellow, don’t blame him if he ignores your first thirteen ‘suggestions’ while waiting for your fevered pitch to reach the point where he interprets it to be a real command.” p. 4

“Discipline is a part of training but is insufficient in itself to effect proper behavior. Training is the conditioning of the child’s mind before the crisis arises.” p. 4

“When God wanted to ‘train’ his first two children not to touch, He did not place the forbidden object out of their reach. Instead, He placed the ‘tree of knowledge of good and evil’  in the ‘midst of the garden (Gen 3:3).’ Since it was in the middle of the garden, they would be exposed to its temptation more often. God’s purpose was not to save the tree but rather, to train the couple.” p.5

“No amount of training is going to override the certainty of sin developing, but the training parents give can lessen the child’s addiction to the flesh and make it easier for repentance to follow sinful indulgence.” p. 19

“The strongest cord of discipline is not found in the whip; rather, it is the weaving together of the strings of mutual love, respect, honor, loyalty, admiration, and caring … If you will cultivate fellowship with your child, you will have such cooperation and compliance that you will forget where you last left the rod.” p. 32

“If they should have a weakness which needs instruction, wait until the pressure and condemnation is off before giving them a study that involves their weakness. If there are guilt feelings present, the lesson will only bring further condemnation and isolation that the rode cannot absolve. When the instruction about God is separate from your discipline, they are free to make an association without feeling watched and graded… Allow the Spirit of God to apply truths to your child’s consciousness.” p. 93

May God richly bless your time reading.

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Book Review: The Mission of Motherhood

Book Review: The Mission of Motherhood

by Sally Clarkson

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I really enjoyed this book. I love reading these books where the author talks about some of the specific things they have done in raising their children for Christ. It is so great to read some personal examples and then to hear from the kiddos and how they were affected by it. This book reminds me of The Shaping of a Christian Family by Elisabeth Elliot in that regard.

I also really liked how much this book focused on your heart as a mom. Several times she emphasized that even if your circumstances mean the mom has to do some work outside of the home, it does not mean her HEART is not at home. This was so encouraging for me because of our recent change in circumstances now that I had to go back to work full time. I really struggled with transitioning back to work even though I didn’t go back because I wanted to but out of necessity, I still felt like I was abandoning my heart which desires so much to just be home full time. I was encouraged to hear about other women in the same situations and to know that my presence at work does not change my heart status.

“… the fundamental mission of motherhood now is the same as it always was: to nurture, protect, and instruct children, to create a home environment that enables them to learn and grow, to help them develop a heart for God and his purposes, and to send them out into the world prepared to live both fully and meaningfully.” p. 3

“For thousands of years… Motherhood was seen as a noble and important calling. Women considered themselves blessed to bear many children, and it was considered normal and good for home and family to be the central focus of a woman’s life… Somehow, over the course of the last century, traditional motherhood had become a lifestyle option – and to many, a lesser option – rather than a divine calling.” p.9-10

“As important as my role is, and as important as my children are, they are not to be the center of my life, and my central calling is not to motherhood… My calling as a mother is the same as any other Christian’s: to fulfill God’s will for our lives and to glorify him.” p.14-15

“The mission of motherhood is strategic in providing the next generation with whole-hearted, emotionally healthy, and spiritually alive adults… It is a divine calling that will indeed affect eternity.” p.16

“When God’s commands are obeyed, people flourish because they are living in harmony with the way they were designed.” p.29

“Children do not accidentally become righteous leaders or emotionally healthy and productive adults – any more than seeds thrown randomly to the wind grow to be part of a thriving garden. Simply throwing children into a cultural tornado and hoping for the best gives them little chance of living up to their potential or coming out unharmed.” p.43

“… a divided mind that comes from a lack of wholehearted commitment to the home, as well as the simple time pressure that comes from supporting a dual career of home and family, tends to rob mother and children alike of the freedom they need to grow and thrive.” p.47

“Each of us is different, each of us finds herself at a different point on this path of motherhood, and our individual decisions will reflect the difference in our circumstances. But once we commit to embrace the vision of motherhood, God always provides the creative guidance we need to keep moving toward our goal.” p.51

“All that God requires from any of us is a desire to serve him and a trust that he can make up the difference for the things we lack… He will use our willingness and or efforts, then fill in the gaps of our inadequacies, to prepare their hearts for what he has in mind.” p.84

“… unless we take the initiative to gently and lovingly confront our children’s sin and selfishness, they will not learn to be mature adults… The wise mother takes the time to correct her children over and over again so they can experience the peace and freedom of knowing how to govern their lives in such a way as to be mature, wise, and at peace with God.” 91

“Children do not accidentally become mature adults of strong character, great faith, gracious relational skills, effective leadership qualities, and sharp intellects. God’s design includes the presence of a hands-on gardener, a mother, to tend and cultivate their hearts, souls, minds, and relationships… a child whose growth is unsupervised or left to chance will likely grow wild and undisciplined or stunted and unfruitful.” p.142

Book Review: The Power of a Praying Wife & Family Prayer Journal

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I must first start by admitting this has been a 2 year read : ) Not because of the content or at all because it was boring or anything like that. I just simply did not keep it a priority but kept it on the list to finish “someday” : ) This book is amazing! It is just amazing how much God has blessed Stormie with an ability to pray intensively and according to Scriptures. The book is laid out with 30 different topics to pray for over your husband. Each topic is about 3 pages long where she gives a brief intro of the importance of praying for this area and usually a real life example of either herself or someone she knows who saw a significant impact in their husband’s lives because of praying for that particular area. She then finishes up with a prayer and some “power tools” at the end which are 4 or 5 scriptures to pray over for that area. The whole book is saturated with scriptures… it is amazing! It really opened my eyes to “praying without ceasing” and praying for everything. I never thought about needing to pray for over half of these things and even if I thought about it I wouldn’t have known how to or where to turn in Scripture to pray over it. This is such a helpful book. I am also finishing The Power of a Praying Parent at this same time. The book 2 years ago inspired me to make our family prayer journal. In it I basically have pulled from this book all of the topics and summed up what she said in a prayer and added in my favorite verses relating to that area. Over the past 2 years I have added personal prayer requests for our marriage and family. Last year I added 2 new sections… one for “generational sins” that I was noticing were being passed down to our children and began seeing the importance of praying for a breaking of those since in our generation and the generation from us. I also added a “praise” section : ) I love my prayer journal and am so thankful for God using this book to have sparked that in me. I use a reusable sticky tab as my “bookmark” and will pray for one section and move the bookmark to the next section for the next time I pray out of the journal. I cannot wait to see some real fruits in the years to come from this.

We can take a stand against any negative influences in our marriage relationship and know that God has given us authority in His name to back it up. p. 15

Praying for your husband will be an act of unselfish, unconditional love and sacrifice on your part. p.21

Before your prayers are answered there will be blessings from God that will come to you simply because you are praying. That’s because you will have spent time in the presence of God, where all lasting transformation begins. p.22

It’s impossible to truly give yourself in prayer for your husband without first examining your own heart. p. 26

Dying to yourself is always painful… But this kind of pain leads to life. p. 28

When we pray we enter into the presence of God and He fills us with His Spirit of love. When you pray for your husband, the love of God will grow in your heart for him. p. 29

The safeguard you have with prayer is that you have to go through God to do it. This means you can’t get away with a bad attitude, wrong thinking, or incorrect motives. When you pray, God reveals anything in your personality that is resistant to His order of things. p. 33

I’m not going to give any more quotes from the rest of the book those were just the introduction and beginning section of the importance of praying for your husband’s wife : ) Yup… that’s you : ) That’s the first chapter and she goes into great detail of the great importance of getting your heart right and honest before God before going on this journey:

“If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear.”

Psalm 66:18

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The inside of the prayer journal with an encouraging verse. At the top are our kiddos names and birthdates… in case I forget haha! Just kidding : )

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The first section of prayers for our children with the prayer requests and scripture that accompanies.

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Prayers for myself, Adam and our marriage

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Book Review: Family Worship in the Bible, in History & in Your Home

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This was a great little book. I think it was one that was recommended from the Family Driven Faith book by Voddie Baucham. This is a tinsy little book which is a nice change to the longer books I’ve been reading lately. It is a great starting point for some further conviction and ideas on what family worship looks like. This is still not something we have implemented personally but we are getting there. We do a little routine every night of reading right now Leading Your Little Ones to God and singing the song and praying the prayer they have at the end of each section and the kiddos love this. It is so cute to hear Joshie say “Jesus… read… book” and bring it to us and he’s getting down the words to “Alive, Alive, Alive forevermore… my Jesus is alive, alive forevermore… sing hallelujah”. This has been a bedtime song we’ve sung since all the kiddos were born and he’s so cute singing it… “lulah seeen lulah” : ) Makes my heart flutter! Also, prior to reading this devotional with the kiddos we finished Big Truths for Little Kids which has the catechism questions before each chapter. We worked on that for 6 months before finishing the book and it is amazing how many of the catechism questions Amelia remembers and will apply every day. We really only memorized about 15 of them and after we finish this book we will re-read that one as I really liked each section of that book. However I do want to implement some time of worship time with the kiddos and me playing the piano or something just because that seems really neat : )

Bringing children up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord is not accomplished unintentionally and incidentally. Yes, it should and will happen throughout the day at unplanned, serendipitous occasions, but it should also happen purposefully. p. 19

“And now I appeal to Reason, Conscience, and Experience whether this employment [of family worship] be not more suitable to the principles, ends and hopes of a Christian, than idleness, or vain talk, or cards, or dice, or dancing, or ale-house haunting, or worldly business or discourse?” Richard Baxter (1615-1691). p. 27

“I regard the neglect of family worship as springing from lukewarmness and worldliness in religion.” J.W. Alexander (1804-1859). p.31

Read, pray, sing

Catechize, memorize scripture, read other books

Brevity, regularity, flexibility

Book Review: Hints on Child Training

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This was such a neat book. It was originally written in 1890 by Henry Clay Trumbull who is Elisabeth Elliot’s Great-Grandfather. It reads as though Mr. Trumbull is your own grandfather sitting down on the sofa with you on Sunday afternoons over coffee and sharing his parental advice to you : ) It is by no means a structured method/formula or anything like that on how to parent. And in fact there are not many scripture references that are cited. BUT Mr. Trumbull’s wisdom is clearly from the Lord. He speaks about his advice from a Godly and biblical perspective and often will speak through the bible just as you and I would casually speak about the things of the Lord that are true and biblical without needing to cite the specific reference of where it is in the Bible. Mr. Trumbull has a wealth of wisdom and it is a blessing to me in this 21st century to learn the wisdom of old when the family unit was so much more valued than it is today. I am so thankful to God that this book has remained in print and perfectly applicable today. Not a one of our great-grandparents from the late 1800’s is alive today so what a neat opportunity to glean some wisdom from someone of that generation.

It is a parent’s privilege, and it is a parent’s duty, to make his children, by God’s blessing, to be and to do what they should be and do, rather than what they would like to be and do. p.19

An accurate diagnosis is an essential pre-requisite to wise and efficient treatment. The diagnosis secured, the matter of treatment is a comparaticely easy matter. p.31

  • What are the special faults of my child?
  • Where is he weakest?
  • In what direction is his greatest strength liable to lead him astray, and when is it most likely to fail him?
  • Which of his faults is most prominent?
  • Which of them is of chief importance for immediate correction? p.33

We should guard sacredly their privileges of personal choice; and while using every proper means to induce them to choose aright, we should never, never, never force their choice, even into the direction of our intelligent preference for them. The final responsibility of a choice and its consequences rests with the child, and not with the parents. p.41

Nothing that is worth doing in this world is an easy matter; and whatever is really worth doing is worth all that its doing costs – and more. p.117

Courtesy is the external manifestation of a right spirit toward others p.165 (I love this thought. This truth. In a book by Elisabeth Elliot I read that was just incredible “The Shaping of a Christian Family” she carries on this wisdom from her great-grandfather when she says:  A simple gesture like passing the butter plate to someone else before helping oneself is the outward expression, small and unobtrusive but deeply telling, of the sacrificial principle, “My life for yours.” When there are only a few muffins left, the one who passes up the second helping lives out the words “in humility consider others better than yourselves.” p.171)

When a child thinks of others, his thoughts go away from himself, and self-forgetfulness is a result, rather than a cause, of his action. p.169

True courtesy involves a readiness to apologize for any and every failure, whether intentional or unintentional, to do or say just that which ought to have been done or said. p.172

However great may be the need of a child’s punishing, a parent ought never to administer punishment to a child while angry. p.205

In order to sympathize with another, you must be able to put yourself in his place, mentally and emotionally; to occupy, for the time being, his point of view, and to see that which he sees, and as he sees it, as he looks out thence. p.251

And it is by the dolls and other playthings of childhood that some of the truest instincts of manhood and of womanhood are developed and cultivated in the progress of all right child-training. p.279

Book Review: Homeschooling with a Meek and Quiet Spirit

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I picked up this little book and found it packed with such good advice and information. I would say this book extends far beyond just homeschooling to motherhood in general and even just life in general. Teri Maxwell who is the founder of  a blog ministry called Titus2 with her husband Steve has many many many years of homeschooling and motherhood wisdom. She shares in this book her journey from when she first started out homeschooling and found herself annoyed and impatient and frustrated with the little bumps in her children’s academic progress and efforts. She talks about being thrilled to start homeschooling and filled with all sorts of peaceful dreams with her kiddos and they were all smashed on the first day. I’ve already experienced this myself : ) All it took for her was a lot of prayer and perspective changes and now she has lots of wisdom to share on how to maintain a meek and quiet spirit as a homeschooling mother (and wife) throughout each and every day no matter what the challenges are. Here are some tidbits of wisdom from the book:

She starts with the definition of “meek” = mild of temper, soft, gentle, not easily provoked or irritated p.17 and “quiet” = peaceable, not turbulent, not giving offense, mild, meek, and contented p.18

She talks about “meek and quiet spirit robbers” which are “fear, disorganization and anger” p.24

“If I make the choice to take my thoughts captive, busyness becomes a vehicle to greater resting in the Lord.” p.45

“We will be much better off if we pray through these days, rather than allow our emotions to rule our behavior.” p.55

In regards to disciplining our children consistently: “Anger creeps into these situations when I am more concerned about my inconveniences and difficulties than I am about my child’s long-term character growth.” p.72 This really hit home for me because I find lately now that I have 2 children of disciplining age that my exhaustion with discipline on certain days is pretty high and sometimes I just want to finish my task at hand instead of stopping for the third time to address the discipline issue and I do quickly find myself struggling with anger and annoyance/impatience towards my children. Often I then will snap at them if without my discipline they aren’t stopping the issue on their own and I end up having to stop my task. I have thought about this a lot lately and have found when I do stop my task and keep an eternal perspective there is a lot of joy and growth that occurs between me and the children instead of the anger and impatience that would’ve occurred.

She talks a lot about how “anger is a choice” and refers to examples of how we would never snap at our families when we are in public (i.e. at church) the same way we would at home

“When we have the realistic expectation that our days will be very busy and that there will be much hard work, then we will be more likely to maintain a meek and quiet spirit. If we think we’ll have our evenings and weekends free, then we will be frustrated and angry when we can’t fit our homeschooling, plus our other homemaking tasks, into just the weekdays.” p.92 I tend to sit here for a long time. I am always towards the end of the day looking so forward to my evenings to myself or with Adam and if Amelia is dilly dallying too long and keeps coming out of her room or Joshie is having a hard time getting to sleep or something came up that evening and now the house is still a mess when it should be “my” rest time amongst a clean house then I get so incredibly irritable. I have been so convicted by this and just Teri’s thoughts on living our lives as mothers sacrificially for the eternal perspective of our families:

“Are we willing to give of ourselves, in selfless investment, in the eternal futures of our children?” p.89

“It is imperative that we keep the truth of God’s Word in our minds and hearts so we don’t become resentful toward our workload.” p.90

I think it is important to have our personal rest time especially as homeschooling mothers since it is a 24/7 responsibility. We never have a “lunch break” or a “15 min. break” and our tasks don’t stay somewhere else at 5 PM to be accomplished the next morning. We need time to ourselves to rejuvenate and that first time should be time with the Lord even before our “me time”. I try very hard to schedule and teach Amelia to honor my time with the Lord by staying in her room quietly until 7 in the morning because I know of it’s importance… BUT not every day is perfect. Some days she’s more obedient than others and some days our schedule/routine is off and this is where God has been teaching me to depend on Him throughout the day and in the moment when things don’t go as I planned/hoped for. He is always faithful and will always provide… as long as I ask Him.

Overall this is a very short but very thought provoking and encouraging and convicting little book. I definitely think every mother whether homeschooling or not should read this to help keep our perspectives in proper alignment!

Book Review: Family Driven Faith

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I picked up this book after a recommendation from a friend for a starting place and a motivator on what it looks like to lead our children in pursuing the Lord and family worship. I am a little torn by this book. I finished it wanting a little more but also know of some places where I may be able to go to find more because of his recommended reading. I think this book is just dipping your feet in the water and maybe I felt like my feet were already dipped and I’m ready to take the plunge.

Either way he sets up the book with a lot of statistics and realities facing the family today and the lack of pursuit on the parents part as far as raising our children according to the biblical standards set before us. Some of the statistics he lists are astonishing. I got some tones from his writing that he was so called “tooting his horn” a little and he came across a little judgmental and harsh at times in some of his vocabulary towards parents who are not raising their children to walk with God. It always makes me a little sad when I hear pastors or writers “mock” fellow believers out there who are struggling in some area. Maybe they just don’t know any better? Maybe they do know better and are being openly disobedient? Either way I always cringe when I hear the mockery tone towards them and wonder to myself if they are being turned away from this instead of convicted. Sometimes it’s best just to preach the word as it is and let the Spirit do the convicting instead of trying to force conviction through making people feel bad. Anyways… I’ll get off my soap box : )

Here are some passages from the book that I thought were really good:

“Obedience is a spiritual issue. Thus teaching my children to obey is not optional; it is a biblical mandate” p.111

“We want them to obey, period. Learning not to repeat ourselves, not to yell, not to call the offending child by all three of his or her names. but to speak in clear, level tones and follow through with consequences for every act of disobedience has completely transformed our home” p.113

“God has designed your family – not the youth group, not the children’s ministry, not the Christian school, but your family – as the principal discipling agent in your children’s lives.” p.120

He referenced an author named Arthur Pink and I really liked this lengthy passage from Pink:

“it is not enough that we pray as private individuals in our closets; we are required to honor God in our families as well. At least twice each day, in the morning and in the evening the whole household should be gathered together to bow before the Lord parents and children, master and servant to confess their sins, to give thanks for God’s mercies, to seek his help and blessing. Nothing must be allowed to interfere with this duty: all other domestic arrangements are to bend to it. The head of the house is the one to lead the devotions, but if he be absent, or seriously ill, or an unbeliever, then the wife would take his place. Under no circumstances should family worship be omitted, If we would enjoy the blessing of God upon our family, then let its members gather together daily for praise and prayer.” p.138

And again from Pink:

“Family worship will prevent much sin. It awes the soul, conveys a sense of God’s majesty and authority, sets solemn truths before the mind, brings down benefits from God on the home.” p.145

“Our family traditions do not guarantee that our children and grandchildren will follow in our footsteps, but they do lean in that direction… Children who grow up in homes that had daily family worship will see it as the norm.” p.146

He finishes off the book with a few chapters on his conviction of a “family integrated church”. This is a church where there is no segregated age groups (i.e. no nursery, youth group, children’s church, Sunday school classes that are age separated, etc.). You go as your entire family of all ages and sit together in the congregation as the whole family. He has a very strong conviction on this and especially towards the youth group and his belief that having a youth group enables parents to continue to sit back while the youth pastor does the job of discipling and evangelizing their children so they don’t have to.

This is the first time I’ve heard of a family integrated church. I can see a lot of good points to having the whole family together but am not sold on his conviction. He states multiple times that this type of church is a radical departure from the norm and not popular by any means. I just do not have a conviction at this time on it being right or wrong and I don’t think this is one of those areas that needs to bring any division between people who are sold on this type of church and those who are not. I respect his conviction and his passion to share his conviction and educate others who like me have never even heard of this type of church.

Overall as I said earlier this is a good book to wet your feet in the concept and conviction of leading your children to walk with the Lord and begin family worship. I don’t think this will be on the top of my list for recommended reading but I am looking forward to reading some of the books I found on his recommended reading list and hope to get a little deeper into this journey through those books.

Reading List 2013

I have been so excited to get this list out. I actually made it in November and have been anxious to get started but have had to wait due to holiday travel and moving. I feel so blessed to have each one of these books (except the fiction) in hand. God really provided over the past year with thrift store and used book store and cheap amazon sales. I had been developing this list as I read book recommendations from my favorite blogs or books that were recommended at the end of some of the books I read last year and I would literally walk into a thrift store and browse the shelf and one of them would be sitting there for a buck or two! I really spent pennies on this collection and while there were a few books I wanted to add or replace with one on the list here I feel confident that God gave me these books to add to my library over this past year to be the ones for me to read currently. I don’t need to spend a penny this next year on books. Praise God for His provisions! Here goes!

Fiction:

  • The Sword by Bryan Litfin
  • The Gift by Bryan Litfin
  • The Kingdom by Bryan Litfin – These 3 books are called the Chiveis Trilogy. Adam and I happened upon them by fluke as I quickly ran into the library before our last drive from AZ back to CO and back to AZ the next week. We wanted something to listen to during the boring NM stretches. This was on the new release shelf for audio cd’s and I read the back and was so interested. I didn’t even realize it was the third book of a trilogy and that it was a Christian author and publisher! We listened to a little less than half during the drive (kiddos didn’t sleep much!) so now I want to start from the beginning and read them. They are very interesting! Similar to a LOTR type sci-fi book with a wonderful Christian undertone.

Marriage:

Parenting:

Christian Discipleship:

Other:

Family and Personal Goals 2012

This is kind of delayed to make a post of my goals for the year but I realized I should since I just finally posted my Home Management Binder post and now should share with you the details of the binder. Besides, it’s always good to do a halfway evaluation of your goals since we’re a little over halfway done with 2012 (can you believe it?!?!). So here are the goals I made for the year with my added revisions due to some life changes.

Personal Goals:

  • Walk in obedience to God’s Word (Psalm 1:1-3)
  • Be intentional with my time (Ephesians 5:17)
  • Make (and use) a Home Management Binder (Proverbs 31:27)
  • Watch less TV and spend more time reading (Philippians 4:8)
  • Memorize one Scripture each week (Deuteronomy 6:6-9)
  • Read the 12 books on my reading list (1 book each month)
  • Insanity workouts (3 days per week) (Proverbs 31:17)
  • Practice Spanish online (30 mins. 2 days per week)
  • Practice Piano (30 mins. 2 days per week) This is no longer an option for me since we no longer have an access to a piano for our current living situation
  • Be aware of my priorities (God, Adam, kiddos, family, friends, everyone else)
  • Weekly planning time to review, make changes and prepare for the week ahead
  • Bi-Weekly planning time to plan meals 2 weeks at a time

Marriage Goals:

  • Have a prayer time with Adam at least once a week
  • Date night once a week Again, this had to change due to Adam’s rigorous work schedule for the golf season and moving away from family again
  • Find one way to encourage Adam each week

Parenting Goals:

  • Implement Bible reading at mealtimes (Proverbs 22:6) This one has been hard because I have found with little kids and sticky hands our Bible is getting really messy and it is hard to read and eat at the same time so we have revised this with Bible reading during our “Circle Time” as well as before naptime and bedtime
  • Spend one day a week at the library and one day a week at the park/zoo
  • Spend 30 minutes – 1 hour each day (except library and park/zoo day) either doing “learning time” or “craft time”.  This has changed since I originally made out these goals since we started homeschooling Amelia for Preschool this August!
  • Challenge myself to not turn on the TV for Amelia when I’m trying to get something done but instead set up a self-play activity for her (reading, play dough, coloring, etc.)
  • Bible reading and bedtime prayers every night

Reading List 2012

Updated: 10/7/12

 I have spent the last few weeks working on my Home Management Binder as I described in my post here. Well, I sort of described… it is such a work in progress that I’m not quite sure when I will post pictures and a full description of what is in the binder (I get giddy even thinking about sharing it!!!). But I have been spending time praying and seeking God’s wisdom in how to live my life more intentionally and making the most of every opportunity (Ephesians 5:17) and it has resulted in making a list of personal goals for the year, encouraging scripture to memorize, practical lists like a meal planner and to-do list, etc., and a book reading list for the year with a goal to read 12 books this year. So… here is my list:

To see any book reviews on these books please go to the Book Review tab at the top of the blog.

 Fiction:

 The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins  I just finished this 2 nights ago! My first finished book in 2012!

Catching Fire by Suzanne Collins 

Mockingjay by Suzanne Collins

The Parting by Beverly Lewis

Marriage:

 The Fruit of Her Hands by Nancy Wilson My new favorite book!

The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian

 The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace (I added this book in May after seeing it on a woman’s bookshelf who I someday aspire to be like… she has all the qualities of a Proverbs 31 woman and is an amazing Christian woman following God hard for her life. So I figured if she read it then I should read it!)

Parenting:

 The Shaping of a Christian Family by Elisabeth Elliot 

Instructing a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp I have changed my mind about reading this book this year and I am going to cross it off and save it for another year.

 Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp – This is a re-read as this book was so fundamental to me understanding discipline based on God’s desires and what the Bible says but we read it right after Amelia was born and her temperament now is much different than then!!!

 The Power of a Praying Parent by Stormie Omartian

 Standing on the Promises by Douglas Wilson

Dare to Discipline by James Dobson

Christian Discipleship:

 The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis

 Biblical Womanhood in the Home by Nancy Leigh DeMoss

The Practice of Godliness by Jerry Bridges – I added this one in August after finding it again at a local thrift store for 50 cents! This morning I felt God telling me that He wanted me to do some more studying on the fruit of the spirits and I was wishing for my Beth Moore study on the fruit of the spirits which is in Arizona in our storage boxes! Well, I checked my bookshelf and looked at the Table of Contents in this book and it was perfect! I am excited to read this as the most important way to improve and grow in my roles as a wife and mother is to improve and grow in my relationship with the Lord and His character and there’s no better way than to grow in the fruit of the spirits!

 Other:

 Organic Housekeeping by Ellen Sandbeck 

Mother Food by Hilary Jacobson – I decided to add this book in March since Joshua is underweight and our Dr. has encouraged us to find some way to supplement and increase calories to speed up his weight gain. The subtitle for this book is “A Breastfeeding Diet Guide with Lactogenic Foods and Herbs – Build Milk Supply, Boost Immunity, Lift Depression, Detox, Lose Weight, Optimize a Baby’s IQ, and Reduce Colic and Alergies”. My little growing man is in need of my increase in milk supply as I am determined to continue feeding him only from the breast and without adding formula for weight gain.

Natural Childbirth after Cesearean by Karis Crawford – I added this book in September once we found out we were pregnant with our third baby. After my trial visit to a midwives office they had this book for loan and I borrowed it since I am going to have a VBAC with this baby (Joshua was breech requiring a c-section).