That’s My Son
by, Rick Johnson
At the time of reading this book Joshua was 5, Joseph was 2 and Benjamin was a newborn. I have 3 boys (as of now) to help raise to become good Godly men and I feel as though I haven’t a clue how to do this! I bought a couple of books that looked like they might be helpful to start pointing me in some direction alongside prayer for God to show me what to do and say to my boys as I raise them.
I wasn’t too impressed with this book overall. I always have a little pet peeve when a book seems to be filled more with quotations from other authors than good information from the author who is actually writing the book. A majority of things I underlined came from other people’s books (so maybe that’s where I should go next in my readings?). There were a few subjects I disagreed with and found this book to be a lot more opinion based rather than Scripture based and Jesus exampled. This is really only the first book I have read to a mom about raising boys so I have a lot more learning to go in this area. My biggest take away is to remember whether raising a son or daughter or discipling an unrelated high school student or mentoring a fellow mom or goal in all of this is to help others become more like Jesus. What kind of a person was Jesus? What behaviors did he model? What example did He set for us? There is loads of wisdom right here from Jesus that can apply to raising a male or a female as we are both image bearers and are both called to model after Jesus’ behavior.
“… the energy, competitiveness, and corporal daring of normal, decent males is responsible for much of what is right in the world. No one denies that boys’ aggressive tendencies must be checked and channeled in constructive ways. Boys need discipline, respect, and moral guidance. Boys need love and tolerant understanding.” p. 40 as quoted in the book The War Against Boys by, Hoff Summers
“… our goal is to raise a boy to be a man who is responsible for himself and others around him – a man who nurtures, provides for, protects, and leads his family courageously and accepts responsibility for his own actions.” p. 47
“Mothers, because of their nurturing tendencies, are often overprotective of their children. After all, it’s a mother’s job to civilize a boy. Without a man’s influence in this area, boys can end up failing to learn the valuable link between taking risks and attaining success in life. Getting hurt physically, failing, persevering, and succeeding (despite overwhelming odds) are key factors in a male’s growth towards manhood.” p. 49
“… as parents, [we] have been entrusted by God to protect our children’s innocence. I’m convinced that parents need to possess a godly jealousy that ruthlessly protects our children from evil.” p. 80 as quoted in Moments Together for Couples by Dennis and Barbara Rainey
“By running too quickly to rescue their sons when things get tough, some moms are teaching their boys that the way out of hard times is to find someone (a woman) to get them off the hook rather than to be accountable to the one in authority and step up to the plate.” p. 105
“When we do not provide our adolescent boys with elders to become friends with, when we do not help guide them in their choice of friends, when we allow overreliance on the media to distract them from the bonding process, and when we push them (or allow them to gravitate) toward female bonding before they are emotionally ready (e.g., letting them date before they are sixteen or so), we make their emotional disadvantage into nearly an assurance of lifelong emotional immaturity.” p. 158 as quoted in A Fine Young Man by, Michale Gurian